Cara Delevingne on her sexuality as a “swinging pendulum” and why we should be proud of masturbation

She has kept a low profile the past few years, but Cara Delevingne has always been someone we have great admiration for. The model is never afraid of discussions around her sexuality, she is a major activist for causes close to her heart and she has a hell of a good time without worrying about what other people think.

True to form, Cara got very outspoken about female sexuality, masturbation, and sex (along with some of her hilarious strip club stories) in a new interview.

Speaking on the Pride podcast edition, Make It Reign with Josh Smith, the 28-year-old explained that she was ashamed of masturbating at residential school, how she wanted to change the conversation about sexuality and sex , as well as the way she identifies herself sexually. now.

Cara on how she sexually identifies is like a “pendulum swing” …

“The way I define myself is changing all the time, be it pansexual, bisexual – I don’t really know. It’s like a pendulum swinging, but almost now I feel a lot more comfortable with it. being bisexual than before. I kind of felt because I was lacking in my desire for women or my love for women that I kind of took a direction and now it’s changing a lot more. much freer and more comfortable because before I was like “oh, I’m gay.” That comes with self-humiliation. I’ll talk to myself a lot worse than I ever would. Any other human being in the whole world. Anyway, even someone who hurt me more than anyone, I’ll be so much nicer than that.

Cara on what pride means to her …

“I try to live with pride and acceptance every day and that comes from living authentically, being able to use my voice and being honest about the love I feel or the love I feel. I feel for myself or struggles that I am going through. I really don’t think I’ve ever been proud of this or used it enough. Until I stop feeling ashamed – ashamed of my sexuality, ashamed of the woman that I am. When that moment arrives, it is not just a month for the community. It’s about whoever chooses love, really. Any ally of the community or people in the community. This is what I think pride should be, it’s just love, love for your partner, love for your neighbor, love for yourself more importantly, and loving people that you don’t know either. Like, it doesn’t have to be something you’re talking about where it’s just a relationship. It could just be a stranger, you know, with empathy and compassion for everyone.

“I don’t want to worry about what people think”

Cara on reducing the shame of talking about orgasms and masturbation through her business, Lora DiCarlo…

“Talking about sex in this way is not trying to alienate men and women or whatever their identity is. It’s more about opening the conversation to enjoying yourself and what that means to you. There are so many guys I know where they said, “I love to sit and watch her use it.” And I’m like ‘it’s so hot’, and it’s so good for straight couples, you know. It’s so interesting when you start talking about sex and how many people find it incredibly uncomfortable.

For me growing up, the thought of masturbating or talking about masturbation, and going to boarding school, I remember I used to masturbate in the pool on the pool jets, and I remember this girl telling everyone she saw me do this and I was mortified and there was so much shame involved!

I am (now) proud of my gender identity. I am proud of my sexuality. I’m also proud of my sexual needs and also think that being able to take ownership of my orgasm (makes it) so much easier to tell a partner what you want, if you know what you want. I think the way we’re taught that men are more horny creatures – that’s just not true. Just because we don’t have a giant alert between our legs that says “woo, I’m alive, you have to stroke me”, it’s still there. It’s just a little more below the surface but the needs are pretty much the same but we are not taught to think about it, the fun part comes last. We’re almost a lot more likely to donate your vagina or your body to someone without thinking like that. The number of times I had sex and it wasn’t even a thought, I didn’t even think I could have an orgasm right now, it was just, ‘it’s sex and whatnot wasn’t even on the list of things during sex.

Cara on cosmetic surgery …

“I always think if I had to get a job done or something, I would talk about it. I had my teeth done for example, (I’m being honest about this) and that’s something I find really important for young girls. I think, especially right now, to have someone who would go and do something and then talk about it because it’s seen as frowned upon and I understand because it comes from a place of deep insecurity. Like since I was a child, I said to myself: “I want to have a breast job, my breasts are uneven.” I started to think about it and luckily at that point I was like, “Well if I had to do this then I don’t think I could be honest about it. That would be a problem because I just think young girls or boys need to know that some things are not naturally available, you know, which is good. It’s the model of modern science and that’s okay, it’s great, but what makes it even sadder is that people just can’t talk about it. “

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Cara on the evolution of beauty standards:

“Everyone’s idea of ​​beauty is different, and beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. Everything is beautiful. What I find really, really beautiful is confidence. That’s beauty for me. I really want to get into this world (of modeling), I’m so glad it’s changed since I entered it, it was like, ‘why is everyone so skinny?’ I’m skinny but I’m naturally very skinny, but that’s what you always want, what you can’t have. I was like, ‘God, I wish I could be more feminine.’ It’s just the craziest thing and it’s changed a lot, but the modeling industry of the 90s and 80s where it was all these women who were celebrated for being different and the modeling era, but it’s funny how beauty evolves in phases and things come in and out of phase, but what i hope isn’t a phase is more acceptance and inclusion in beauty, one hundred percent i think that it is really important.

Cara on her hilarious strip club stories…

“Every time I go to a strip club I make friends, I’m like ‘Oh my god you’re so cool – you’re a doctor and a single mom, you’re awesome.’ My friends will tell me “what are you doing, that’s not what you’re supposed to be doing here! Have you ever been to Magic Mike? It was so hot, it was carnage. I went back.” see the guys who did the show and I said to them, ‘I think you’re doing the world a really big service. It’s about educating and teaching men more about foreplay and not just about sex. but how sexy they can be that way – that’s an art! ”I was really blown away, I was in awe. I was on stage, it was me who was tied to the ropes and who was flying everywhere. It was so much fun! I honestly prefer male strip clubs a lot more. There was an amazing one in Toronto. Canada is the only place where you can have full frontal male nudity. remember going to a place and I was like, “Oh, there’s a penis on my hand at the bar, it’s weird! Right there, floppy, it’s funny!

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